Keep it real?
"Stay true to yourself" is great advice. Or not?
Does that apply to stalkers, child molesters, psychopaths, sociopaths, liars, intriguers, thieves, drug dealers?
Are liars, intriguers and thieves aware that they are scheming and fraudulent? Or do they put lipstick on the pig and convince themselves that they have legit reasons for being unsocial and who they are?
Blind spots, sick people, the mean world and even meaner circumstances and such ... they always find someone else to blame. They might break into your house or your computer .. but whatever they take - they never take responsibility for their actions.
Well, if these unpleasant people do not realize that they are unsocial, yucky people ...
...how do I know I am not one of them?
If unpleasant people sugarcoat the reality of who they are to themselves, then I would do that too, wouldn´t I? And maybe I too would not even realize that I am an a**hole.
"Be yourself. Be true to yourself." Maybe that advice is not great after all. Some people would be better advised to change and not be anything like themselves.
Other people might warp too much in their attempt to comply and be liked.
Therefore, I am changing and re-wording my advice:
Be yourself as much as it is right for you and those around you. And change if you do not make your life and the life of your loved ones better.