Deep down we still have the instincts of a prehistoric animal. We sense fear. We smell insecurity.
We do not trust people who do not trust themselves.
We perceive insecurity as weakness. Often, we take advantage of this weakness.
Not only will more confidence help you to get more of what you want and become a happier person ...
- You can influence people easier if you radiate confidence
- People are less likely to give you a hard time
- Just by expecting more from life the filters in your brain will change
Just imagine you could use all of the energy you use on doubts, fear, and hesitation towards your goal.
Well, now you can!
This offer is not time limited. There are no "act now or never" bonuses. You will not be presented with a "you will only see this once" offer and nobody will push you into a "sales funnel". Your inbox will not be bombarded.
I also do not believe in made up value-propositions. Your cost is the price of the brainwave entrainment sessions. That's it.
What is limited, though, is our lifetime. The best time to start to create positive change is now.
Why is the pack so inexpensive? For the chance of getting to know each other.
Answer to the three question I get asked most often in private consultations:
Q. When I get around other people I am anxious and stressed. How can I cure my social anxiety to enjoy more personal relationships?
A. Social anxiety often comes from a feeling of low self-esteem. You don't feel like you have anything to offer the world. If these thoughts have led you to cloister yourself away from others, and you interact with people on an extremely limited basis, you may want to seek the aid of a counselor or therapist.
In many cases however, you simply need to approach the problem head on.
Start small. Get up the courage to speak to a total stranger. This may be your mailman, someone at work, or a person you meet while shopping. Sometimes just saying "Hello" can be very tough. However, over time, you will see that your feelings of anxiety are misplaced, and that others do want to talk to and interact with you.
Slowly expand this one-on-one interaction to larger social groups. Spend time with the friend or friends that you are comfortable around. Tell them how you feel. They can help ease you into social situations where you can lean on them as a crutch emotionally. The fact that you notice you have an anxiety problem in social situations means you want to change it. That is the beginning of conquering your feelings of self-doubt, becoming comfortable and confident around others.
Q. Is it true that what I eat has a role in whether I feel confident or not?
A. The food and drink you put into your body is largely responsible for your emotions. This is because your emotions are often triggered by hormonal and chemical responses. Eat too much refined sugar, salt and white flour, and stress hormones abound. Reduce your consumption of those foods, skip the caffeine and processed food, and "feel good" chemicals are released.
Boosting your confidence level is definitely doable by changing your diet. Eat more raw foods, like fruits and vegetables, berries and nuts, and less processed, fast foods, energy drinks and the like. Drink alcohol moderately, if at all. It only takes a few days for a healthy approach to nutrition to dramatically improve how you feel like yourself.
Q. What are the common triggers of low self-esteem, and how can I trigger confidence instead?
A. Certain people, places and things immediately cause you to feel uncertainty, anxiety and a lack of confidence. This is because when you have been in these situations before you have either under-performed, or your lack of belief in yourself was confirmed. One simple way to keep this from happening is to avoid those triggers which make you feel bad about yourself.
Spend your time with people that appreciate you instead. If you experience self-doubt eating out at a restaurant with your friends because you are on a diet, invite them over to your place instead, and provide a healthy dinner for everyone. Identifying when you feel confident, and when you feel a lack of confidence, means you can skip those situations you should avoid, and spend time on confidence-boosting experiences instead.
Q. How can I use confidence in some areas of my life to boost my low self-esteem in other areas?
A. Almost everyone feels good about something they do. You may have absolutely no doubt about your ability to perform a certain task or skill. Research has shown that you can use this fact to your advantage if you suffer low self-esteem or a lack of confidence in other areas of your life.
Think about the feelings you have when you are doing that thing you are so good at. You are confident when you perform some task at work, play a particular sport, or tackle a new recipe. When you are faced with a lack of confidence, stop what you are doing and remember the last time you were supremely confident.
How did you feel? What thoughts went through your mind? Why do you think you were so confident about your actions? The answers to these questions can help you erase a low level of self-esteem and lack of confidence, by "borrowing" your feelings and mindset that are related to something you are very confident about.